By: Hebé Lugo Nazario

Tips: Do’s & Don’ts for Nurturing Influential Relationships

Do’s:

• Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. This helps you build empathy and understanding.
• Become a teacher or mentor. Sharing your knowledge can inspire growth in others.
• Listen actively. By truly hearing what others have to say, you demonstrate respect and care.
• Speak with respect and compassion. This approach encourages open communication.
• Express your gratitude. A simple “thank you” can have a lasting impact.
• Love and take care of yourself. When you prioritize your well-being, you’re better equipped to support others.
• Be honest about your feelings and emotions. Transparency fosters trust.
• Learn from others. Everyone has something valuable to teach you.
• Be interested in others. Instead of trying to be interesting, focus on understanding their perspective — you’ll naturally become more engaging.
• Forgive. Letting go of grudges frees your mind and heart.
• Practice kindness in small doses. Simple gestures can brighten someone’s day.
• Make positive observations about others. Compliments can leave a lasting impression.
• Focus on understanding. Empathy builds stronger connections.
• Help others. Even small acts of service can have a big impact.

Don’ts

• Don’t forget that everyone has difficult days. Showing patience and empathy makes a difference.
• Don’t ignore the impact you have on others. Your words and actions leave lasting impressions.
• Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Instead, focus on meaningful conversations.
• Don’t be rude. Kindness creates connection, while rudeness builds walls.
• Don’t take others’ kind actions for granted. Gratitude keeps relationships strong.
• Don’t criticize yourself or others harshly. Constructive feedback is far more effective.
• Don’t neglect self-care in the process of caring for others. A healthy you is essential for supporting others.
• Don’t suppress your emotions. Sharing feelings in a healthy way encourages connection.
• Dont talk about yourself all the time
• Don’t assume you know everything. Staying open to learning expands your influence.
• Don’t try to impress others just for the sake of it. Authenticity is far more powerful
• Don’t hold grudges. Letting go promotes inner peace.
• Don’t rely on occasional big gestures. Instead, practice kindness consistently.
• Don’t focus solely on others’ flaws. Recognizing their strengths builds stronger relationships.

Authentic Influence Starts With Consistency:

Practice the things that align with you and your personality. However, I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone. My goal is for you to remain genuine and natural — not to practice actions with the intention of becoming someone else.

Little by little, with small actions, you can achieve your best version, making you more attractive to opportunities, influential people, and those you want to influence. Being genuine, authentic, and natural allows you to shine anywhere you go.

How beautiful it is to think that a compliment or positive comment you made brought a smile to someone’s face on their way home! When you show interest in others, you break down barriers and misconceptions about yourself.

Ultimately, influencing others starts with authenticity and genuine care. I want to guide you in reaching your goals, and being interested in others is one of the most powerful tools to make it happen.